The Improved You:
6 Steps to Becoming a Better Version of Yourself
Written by Jasmyne B. Jackson, Author, Poet, Contributing Writer
Do you have a desire to improve your life, become a better version of yourself, or expand your thinking and overall mindset? Do you want to be more disciplined, more focused, and more confident? If the answer is yes to any of these questions, keep reading.
The journey to an improved you begins the moment you decide to become better. If you truly want to see a difference within yourself, you must dedicate the time each day to implement the strategies mentioned below. The beginning of change may seem rocky but remember to show yourself some grace. You're breaking those chains of habit and familiarity that have kept you weighed down and replacing them with positive courses of action.
Here are a few steps you can take to improve yourself.
1. Begin each day with intention.
What would you like your morning to entail? Think about what you would like to do on purpose every morning. Perhaps you desire to sit in silence, read, pray, write, affirm yourself, listen to your favorite song or partake in your favorite breakfast item or beverage. You do not have to partake in the same activity every morning. You can choose to alternate the days. The beauty of beginning your day with intention is that you get to decide. No one else. Whatever you decide, be consistent, and make sure it is what you love to do. More importantly, make sure it brings a smile to your face!
2. Release the weights!
Yes, you must let go of everything that restricts and hinders you from being the very best version of yourself. It is not your responsibility to take on everyone's issues, problems, and pains. If the relationship or connection is draining you mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually, release it. You are not obligated to maintain unhealthy negative relationships because of the shared history. Whether it be family members, friendships, or lifelong acquaintances, if the relationship takes more from you than it adds, it's time to release it. You deserve to do this for you. Be courageous and release the weights!
3. Set Boundaries.
It is important to know your limits and to ensure others are aware of those limits. If you don't want to, then don't. If the idea or event doesn't sit well with you, voice your concerns. You do not have to agree or participate. It is okay to say no. The journey to a better you requires you to set boundaries and build healthy relationships. You don't have to apologize for choosing yourself and your peace. You don't have to apologize for choosing growth over being stuck in a cycle of resentment. Set your boundaries and maintain them. This is just one way of ensuring those things that are of value to you are protected and your standards are respected!
4. Set goals- Daily, weekly, monthly.
What would you like to see yourself accomplish on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis? Think about your goals, dreams, and aspirations. Create a list. From that list, choose what you wish to focus on and build upon that. Make sure the goal is specific and easily attainable. For example, you might decide to do breathing exercises every hour or choose to work out for 10 minutes every day. Perhaps you want to sit in silence for 15 minutes to regroup. Maybe for a monthly goal you decide to dress up and take yourself on a date. The possibilities are endless! Whatever you decide to do for yourself, remember to be specific and keep the goal attainable!
5. Be Accountable.
Always, especially with yourself. Honesty allows you to remain accountable for your actions and your role in any given situation. When you turn the mirror on yourself and realize your decisions have caused you to be where you are, you not only allow room for growth and true change to take place, but you also have a point of reference to improve and continue on your path of greatness.
6. Make yourself a priority.
Choosing to focus on yourself is not selfish. In fact, it is one of the greatest forms of self-care. Have you ever heard the saying, "You can't pour from an empty cup?" Well, it is true. You can't pour into others when you are empty and drained from the demands of life. Take the necessary time to prioritize yourself and your needs. Make daily deposits into you first. When you make yourself a prime concern you are saying, "I value myself enough to care for me and meet my needs, speak life into me, and love me sincerely." This is how you keep your personal cup full and a little lagniappe for others!
Incorporating these steps have helped me tremendously along my journey. They are a part of the foundation that keeps me balanced daily! I hope you adopt these steps into your lifestyle and begin your journey of becoming the greatest version of yourself!
